by Manitonquat
   
   May 23, 2014
   
 
    
This is an excerpt from the book "Have you lost your Tribe?" by the 
   native American elder Manitonquat. He is the author of several books 
   (non fiction and fiction). They are available 
      through www.circleway.org. As the discussion is unfolding how we can 
   change humankind's direction his thinking and wisdom is a major 
   contribution. Together with his wife Ellika he brings the knowledge 
   of the Circle Way of living to interested people all over the world 
   in camps and workshops. To learn more visit
      
      www.circleway.org 
There are over three hundred million indigenous people in the world 
   today. 
        
        
        Most of them indentify with a tribe and actually live among 
   their people in traditional tribal areas. 
        
        
        The rest of the world is 
   either of mixed tribal heritage or has lost connection and knowledge 
   of any tribal lineage in their families.
        
        
        It is my experience that 
   most people today feel isolated and unconnected with the communities 
   around them and very many of them feel the longing for the kind of 
   closeness and mutual support that the idea of a tribe conveys to 
   them.
Manitonquat 
        
        (Medicine 
        Story)
       
      
     
    
   
   
    
   “Only tribes will 
   survive."
   - Vine Deloria Jr.
   
   Lakota
   
   
   Manitonquat
   
    
   
   It seems Old Man Winter doesn't want to move on yet. 
   
    
   
   He 
   threw some more snow on us last night, and the wind outside is 
   pretty chilling. So it's good we have plenty of firewood and we have 
   our stove making it warm and cozy in here now. 
   
    
   
   I burned some sweet 
   grass to give us a nice clean new atmosphere in the room, and I put 
   my prayers for opening our minds together into a pinch of tobacco 
   that I gave to the fire.
   
   Let's settle down, get comfortable, and consider this subject of 
   tribes and the tribal way of organizing ourselves. Take a moment to 
   breathe into the subject, the idea of belonging the possibility of a 
   community that you may call your own and would support you and be 
   supported by you.
   
   When I ask you "have you lost your tribe?" I should describe what I 
   mean by the word "tribe". 
   
    
   
   The word has a bad reputation these days 
   with so many tribes led by hereditary chieftains that in many places 
   are absolute autocrats of patriarchal fiefdoms that are often 
   abusive and brutal to women and children. That is certainly not what 
   I think about when I hear the word tribe.
   
   There are over three hundred million indigenous people in the world 
   today. Most of them indentify with a tribe and actually live among 
   their people in traditional tribal areas. 
   
    
   
   The rest of the world is 
   either of mixed tribal heritage or has lost connection and knowledge 
   of any tribal lineage in their families. It is my experience that 
   most people today feel isolated and unconnected with the communities 
   around them and very many of them feel the longing for the kind of 
   closeness and mutual support that the idea of a tribe conveys to 
   them.
   
   I am a person of a mixed background, but I have a primary identity 
   as an Assonet 
   
   Wampanoag, which is the largest part of my own 
   heritage. I am also one sixteenth Swedish and feel very at home with 
   my wife's welcoming family in Sweden.  
   
    
   
   The Assonet Band of the 
   Wampanoag, on the mainland of southeastern Massachusetts and eastern 
   Rhode Island is autonomous and has a chief, male or female, who is 
   appointed by the clan mother at the behest of the women of the band 
   after they have conferred with the men. 
   
    
   
   If the chief were to do 
   something the women disapproved of, they would let him know, and if 
   he continued to defy them, they would choose another chief to 
   conform to the will of the people. In modern times this has not ever 
   happened.
   
   So my notion of tribalism stems from our practices, as well as from 
   my association with many first nations across North America, rather 
   than from other tribes around the world with whose histories and 
   cultural traditions I am unfamiliar.
   
   Our traditions, as I was taught by our elders, relate tribal life to 
   the circle. In a circle all are equal, all are heeded. 
   
    
   
   The way that 
   
   Black Elk, the Oglala holy man, put it,  
   
    
    "In the old days, when we were a 
    strong and happy people, all our power came from the sacred hoop 
    of the nation. As long as that hoop remained unbroken the people 
    flourished."
    
   My elders assured me that, although the instructions to live in a 
   circle was transmitted through our traditions, it was a way for all 
   people, not just for us. Not an "Indian way" but a "human being 
   way". 
   
    
   
   As they instructed me to do I have been passing along this 
   information to others around the world for forty years now.
   
   I learned from the elders and saw for myself what were the benefits 
   of the circle way of living; being a scholar I also studied to 
   understand what happened to the circle in history. It was clear this 
   way was the most ancient and most successful form of society ever 
   used by human beings.
   
   I am planning a longer study of history and pre-history to 
   investigate what happened to the circle and why it was not 
   incorporated into the beginnings of civilization. The overly simple 
   answer to that is that civilization in most places began with sudden 
   explosions of population that obliterated the tribal circles with 
   sheer numbers of people. 
   
    
   
   The energy that held circles together was 
   mutual protection and support that developed our very human 
   attributes of cooperation and caring. The energy, in other words, of 
   love. 
   
    
   
   When the mutual support and caring of the circles was no 
   longer available, the new world of strangers was frightening. Out of 
   that fear arose individuals desperate to survive and using their 
   strength and cunning to do so, generally by means of violence. 
   
    
   
   The 
   chaos of population without circles was soon replaced by a different 
   order: the order of warlords, of authority and hierarchy, held 
   together by the threat of violence, of death or enslavement. 
   
    
   
   The 
   energy, in other words, of fear.
   
   The newly ordered warrior societies began to conquer their neighbors 
   and forced them to submit to their warrior rule. And so proceeds all 
   of history for past ten thousand years, wrestling all power from the 
   women and oppressing the children. Our people, the natives of North 
   America, were one of the last to be conquered and brought under this 
   rule of of man-made law and violence.
   
   Many years ago I listened to Liberian exile's description of the 
   history of his people. 
   
    
   
   In his lifetime he had seen the transition 
   from the circle, from the equality of all people, from the simple 
   village life - no ownership but complete sharing and cooperation - to 
   the imported civilization and the autocracy of bureaucracy and U.S. 
   corporations. 
   
    
   
   We stood in a circle there in 
   
   Shoshone country, our 
   arms about each other, and there were tears flooding his eyes as he 
   told us,  
   
    
    "What we lost was this. What we lost 
    was love."
    
   The social form of fear which gave rise to,
   ...as well as,
   
    
- 
     
     loneliness 
- 
     
     hopelessness 
- 
     
     terror and terrorism 
    
   We have not created this society, but it has a hand in creating us. 
   
   
    
   
   In making us feel powerless, forcing us to conform, using its 
   wealth to isolate us, to keep us from creating a more human system 
   and convincing us that happiness is being able to buy a lot of 
   material stuff, keeping us tied to deadening jobs to pay for them, 
   as their acquisition depletes the earth.
   
   Most of the world has accepted this state of things because they see 
   no alternative. 
   
    
   
   They make the best of it, even if it means taking on 
   more jobs and cutting themselves further from closeness with their 
   children and families, from friends and elders. 
   
    
   
   There are signs now 
   of worldwide discontent: 
   
    
- 
     
     uprisings of young people against 
     oppressive 
   governments 
- 
     
     terrorism by people feeling powerless and unheard 
- 
     
     craziness of individuals 
     breaking under the stress and killing loved ones, children 
     and random strangers 
    
   But the need for a more human way of life has also been moving in a 
   more positive and creative direction. 
   
    
   
   The consideration of that and 
   how you might use it to make a better life for yourself and a better 
   society for everyone is the subject of these talks. This direction, 
   which has been building for many decades, slowly over half a 
   century, has been picking up speed because of our environmental 
   crisis. 
   
    
   
   The term that has been adopted by many 
   people involved is "eco-village". 
   
    
   
   Thousands of people around the world with 
   the understanding that "small is beautiful", are networking and 
   learning from each other how to create sustainable lifestyles that 
   will not deplete the planet's resources or harm other life forms.
   
   You could call these communities tribes, they are certainly living 
   together cooperatively, in mutual support of each other to some 
   degree, and caring for the land that supports them. Most of these 
   people would not object to being called tribal, and indeed some of 
   them think of themselves that way. 
   
    
   
   But I would like to propose a 
   further investigation of the benefits to be gained by living the 
   circle way of life.
   
   For that I want you to consider these aspects of tribal societies, 
   and 
   in the future I will refer to them together as 
   the Circle Way, 
   which is how I call what I explore and teach in our workshop and 
   camps.
   
   Now I want you to know that I do not believe that any society has 
   ever been perfect any more than any individual person has. There 
   have been and are tribal societies that have gone out of balance 
   and acted in less than human ways. 
   
    
   
   If you ask me why of course I do 
   not know, but I feel quite sure that the origins of inhumanity are 
   to be found in fear. It is fear that prompted societies to 
   propitiate the gods in blood, in violence and mistreatment. The 
   monotheistic 
   
   religions of the world have also suffered from that 
   affliction.
   
   But in my experience of the many indigenous peoples of the world I 
   am convinced these fearful practices are not common, are in fact 
   rare anomalies overall.  
   
    
   
   So, even as we might consider an ideal human 
   being upon which to model our actions, I would propose we describe 
   an ideal society to be a model for our community.
   
   Imagine now that you were experiencing a life in such a community. 
   As a baby being born you would open your eyes to a group of loving 
   women, the midwives and helper assistants who have been waiting for 
   the magical moment of your appearance, to help you into this world 
   in the softest and gentlest way. There is nothing but wonder and 
   gratitude at your arrival. 
   
    
   
   The faces you see are smiling with love 
   and gleaming with tears of joy. You are here at last! 
   
    
   
   The whole 
   tribe is waiting to meet you and cheer you into their world. You 
   look to make connections and each one wants to connect with you, to 
   help and guide you. Your coming has brought new happiness to the 
   people. You have many relatives: the whole village is your family.
   
   Growing up when there are confusions and frustrations, conflicts 
   losses and other unavoidable hurts, there are many to learn from, 
   wise elders and storytellers, clan mothers, aunties, uncles, older 
   children. Through the years of your life you stay close to these 
   people, and as you grow old the love received and the love you give 
   reach ever deeper dimensions.
   
   You work and play and celebrate together, through laughter and 
   through grief, through the birth of babies, their growing to adults, 
   and the coming of new generations. All helping one another, learning 
   together, planting harvesting, building together, dreaming together, 
   and filling the seasons with celebration.
   
   This is the Circle Way...
   
    
   
   Human beings became human because they came 
   together to help each other and we have evolved with helpfulness as 
   a basic ingredient of our nature. I that way each one was equally 
   important, each must be listened to, to be understood and 
   appreciated. 
   
    
   
   This is why as long as the circle was unbroken the 
   people flourished. When we lose the circle we lose each other, we 
   become afraid, and we lose our humanity. And that is why we live 
   today in such a inhuman world.
   
   Even when we lose all that and begin to hurt ourselves and others, 
   the circle can heal us. The circle can make us human again. 
   
    
   
   That is 
   what happens in our prison circles. Simply by learning respect, by 
   treating each other respectfully, listening to one another, being 
   there to support each other, the circle members begin to heal.
   
   I was touched the other night by a man called Little Wolf in one of 
   those circles. 
   
    
   
   He was considering the coming prospect of his release 
   and said, 
   
    
    "I don't want to leave, because that means I leave my 
   family behind, the only real family I have." 
    
   That closeness, feeling 
   at home with the people around us, that feeling of family-hood, is 
   what we all need, and now the goal for Little Wolf must be when he 
   gets out to find a circle or to make one and to keep getting close 
   and building family wherever he is.
   
   That is the goal for all of us, if we want to live a truly human 
   life, to keep growing our circle, expanding our love, our capacity 
   to give and receive affection and encouragement and appreciation, to 
   listen and to understand and support one another.
   
   What made us human was this experience of living tribally, in a 
   circle of equals, in groups larger than the extended families of our 
   primate relatives but small enough that the individuals were able to 
   know each other well. 
   
    
   
   A true tribe must provide protection and 
   support to every member equally. I a truly human society there can 
   be no discrimination against any individual regardless of age, 
   physical or mental capacity, sex, or sexual preference.
   
   The whole tribe, therefore, has a sense of involvement and 
   responsibility for each child, which takes a lot of burden off the 
   parents. As well as the elders, clan leaders and band chiefs, the 
   siblings, the grand parents, the aunts and uncles, the cousins, all 
   have roles in helping and guiding the little children. 
   
    
   
   The child 
   grows with a sense of belonging, of being cared about, of having a 
   place and a value among his or her people.
   
   Consider too the effect on all the adults of the tribe of being 
   with, caring for and guiding the children. When we honor the 
   children, when we listen to them and pay attention to their thoughts 
   and feelings, it has a wonderful effect on us. It nurtures our own 
   sense of caring and our thoughts for their welfare. 
   
    
   
   And when we have 
   that attitude of caring and paying good attention to them, we are 
   constantly being confronted by the innate wisdom that we once 
   ourselves possessed, that we brought into this world in our nature.
   
   
    
   
   That wisdom which the exigencies of survival in our complicated and 
   confusing world have buried in forgotten closets of our 
   consciousness. Consider the effect that living so close to the 
   children in the community would have had on our evolution as social 
   beings. Consider how far from that closeness and humanity our 
   society has come in our isolation from each other.
   
    
   
   Imagine how 
   having that wisdom again, living such closeness with respect, 
   compassion, caring, growing and learning with our children might 
   affect the world today.
   
   To children the world is still viewable from the simple stance of 
   what is pleasant or unpleasant, sweet or sour, fun or not fun, 
   interesting or boring, kind or mean, healing or hurtful. 
   
    
   
   My friend 
   Robert Alter learned from his daughter when she was a little girl 
   that everything in life could be described as either "yum" or 
   "yuck!"
   
   Little children, feeling safe and cared about, excited just to be 
   alive, finding the world a curious and interesting place, want above 
   all to have fun and to laugh. Imagine what it really means to any 
   community to have such teachers with them, to have free happy 
   children to show us about freedom and happiness, to make us laugh 
   and to teach us how to play.
   
   Children are always in the moment. They have not yet narrowed their 
   concerns and everything is interesting and a kind of miracle. 
   
    
   
   They 
   want to learn and understand it all. Today we send them to 
   institutions to learn – institutions that uniformly destroy all 
   their curiosity and make learning drudgery and hardly ever any fun.
   
   Living closely together, cooperating, communicating, learning from 
   each one, making each one important, developing our caring and 
   understanding and therefore our love and compassion, listening to 
   the old and young alike and honoring all - that is how we evolved 
   into Homo sapiens sapiens, the wise, wise ones.
   
   But we are in danger of turning that evolution back, returning to 
   the world of baboons that are always fighting or indifferent to on 
   another. Because we have lost our tribes, we have been isolated from 
   each other when we all need each other. We have substituted nations 
   for tribes. 
   
    
   
   Nations that demand our loyalty, our praise, our money, 
   but give so little in return that the majority of people in even the 
   richest nations are struggling for survival while a fortunate few 
   have more wealth than they can use. 
   
    
   
   (The income gap is huge and 
   growing. At this time in the U.S. the average income of the bottom 
   90% of people is $31,244 a year while 
   
   the top 1% earn 1.1 million. 
   Since World War II the share of the nation's income for the lowest 
   80% of people has been falling and continues to fall.)
   
   Still the wealthy few are unsatisfied.  
   
    
   
   They do not want to share or 
   to help others have a fair share of the Earth's resources. They do 
   not even enjoy the moment. They want more. They don't have deep and 
   satisfying relationships. They don't spend fun-time with their 
   children, they are only driven to make more stuff, or to make money 
   from their money. To be smarter dealers and more conspicuous 
   consumers.
   
   The lack of love, our most precious capacity and experience, is 
   illustrated every moment of every day just by watching what is 
   presented on television, the window to our culture. 
   
    
   
   First, of 
   course, the news, full of wars and violence and political attacks 
   and acrimony, of local crimes and corruption; then there are the 
   soap operas about people unable to communicate, consummate or enjoy 
   relationships; we see "reality" shows set up to pit people against 
   each other, talk shows with people making sly put-downs of others, 
   and silliness that passes for humor, game shows that are only about 
   winning big a prize.
   
    
   
   Especially telling: 
   
    
    the endless flow of crime 
   dramas capitalizing on people's fears and playing up the horrors 
   created by socio- or psychopathic villains. 
    
   Only sporting events 
   seem comparatively untouched by all that and sometimes even seem to 
   counteract the isolation, as when teams and individuals publicly 
   show affection for one another after the game. 
   
    
   
   Yet even that is 
   spoiled by the fanatical fans that riot at many European football 
   matches.
   
   And over all that is the constant, pounding repetition of the 
   commercials, reminding us that the only important thing in our lives 
   is stuff. Stuff to make you attractive, stuff to make others envy 
   you, stuff to make you feel important or powerful, stuff to at least 
   reduce your pain, but stuff that will never actually satisfy you. 
   
   
    
   
   You must crave more and more until our already denuded and polluted 
   planet is stripped beyond what it can bear. Your value to society, 
   to the nation, and to your peers is not for the interesting and 
   loving person you are, but only as a consumer.
   
   There is good news, however. We are learning. The desire to change 
   society in ways better suited to our humanity is growing. It is a 
   desire that may be as old as civilization itself. 
   
    
   
   For nearly ten 
   thousand years most human beings have accepted the world they were 
   born into, but there are exceptions, models that are woven into our 
   dreams and hopes - and our tales. 
   
    
    Confucius and Lao Tse told of 
   better, more ideal ways to act in society, Buddha, Socrates, Hillel, 
   Jesus, Mohammed, Rumi, St. Anthony, Francis of Assisi, George Fox, 
   Karl Marx, Robert Owen, Sri Aurobindo, Mohandas Gandhi, Martin 
   Luther King Jr., 
    
   ...are only a few of the thousands of thinkers who 
   dreamed of a better world, a list that should include the Peacemaker 
   of the Six Nations, Sweet Medicine, Wovoka, and Black Elk.
   
   Here you may learn of that desire turned into action.
   
   In 
   
   this book you will find brief introductions into the stories of 
   some of the people who have aspired to change the world in the 
   twentieth century. They are people who absented many of the 
   structures of civilization to build communities that might more 
   closely respond to their ideas of an ideal society.  
   
    
   
   More of the book will recount my own 
   experiences and observations among some of these successful 
   alternatives which are making lives more satisfying and fun…
   
   I therefore very humbly submit these findings to all the many 
   communities and eco-villages now flourishing around the globe. 
   
   
    
   
   I hope 
   that many will wish to take them to develop for themselves, in their 
   community processes, interpersonal relationships, and most 
   importantly in their relations with their children, learning from 
   them, staying close and helping them, and making the world our 
   playground, the Earth our garden.